Andrea,
As Bob knows, we have faced similar needs for both military personnel, retirees and family members for sometime here in the Tacoma/Ft Lewis area of WA State.
Yes, to reflect some of the comments above, there are federal and state counselors available and on-line suicide and counseling contacts. But no/no face-to-face, peer oriented support or self care network exists for us or across the nation.
We decided to start one : www.ptsdanonymous.org/about
Fort Lewis expects the return of 3 cby bdes (about 15K indivs) this Summer. We "assume" there will be a critical mass then. In the meantime, there remain some myths hard to break: spt grps can only be run by official agencies or counselors; meeting must be held in fitted locations, a trained facilitator is required, etc.
In the same vein as Dryhootch, we need more FOBes out there with more outposts at the community level all allowing vets and family members to meet in a neutral, safe atmosphere to talk.

welcome to the group